Godly home – Building a godly home cannot happen without human interactions.
We must therefore recognize that a vital part of human interactions is that conflicts can occur.
“Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come.”
Many factors such as words spoken in anger, actions of indiscretion by one party or the other can lead to conflict. Hence it is important in building a godly home to know how to handle these matters. We have earlier established that in the marital relationship, the husband is to love and wife is to submit. Her submission being to her husband’s Love and this relationship mirroring that of Christ and the Church.
Godly Home Standard Set In The Scripture:
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
There is however a precedence to this text. Paul had earlier spoken about believers forgiving one another and walking in Love.
Godly Home Is Rooted In God’s Forgiveness:
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;
And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.
Again, the example Paul presents to us is that of the Father who forgave us for Christ’s sake and Christ who loved us by giving himself for us. Thus, the responsibility to walk in Love is not the husband’s alone but that of both the husband and wife in raising a godly home.
Both have a responsibility towards one another to be kind, to forgive, to put away bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, evil speaking and malice from their relationship and home.
In walking in Love, the believer must firstly understand the love of God demonstrated in Christ’s sacrifice. Also, seeing the believer is a child of God and has his nature, he can as God in Christ loved us display the same character of love towards others. Hence the believer must also come into the realization of his nature in Christ such that walking in Love becomes an exhibition of his nature, not mere adherence to rules and regulations.
Key Note: In building a godly home, love is the responsibility, not just of the husband but of both parties and this love is to mirror God’s love for us in Christ and Christ’s love for the church.
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About The Author:
Dr. Abel Damina is the senior Pastor of Power City International Church,
Uyo Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria