Correction Builds: If we must judge peoples words and actions, we must show the fruit of the Spirit in it. We must seek to correct and not convict. We must see to it that we do correction in love. Correction done in love builds and doesn’t destroy people. Love doesn’t attempt to “reduce others”.
The exhortation below was sent to me by a dear sister. It blessed me and I know it should bless us all.
Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer each person. Colossians 4:6
I remember when I was young, we had a little saying that went, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” But as I’ve grown older, I’ve discovered that it’s not true. Words can be devastating. Gossip, slander, rumours, and innuendo can destroy a person’…s life.
Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas, during his confirmation to the court, had many terrible things said about his character. At one point, he remarked, “I would have preferred an assassin’s bullet to these proceedings.” That’s how damaging words can be. Yet very often today, many people simply say whatever they think and don’t even consider how it makes others feel.
As Christians, we have the responsibility to speak God’s truth in correction, but to do it in love. Yet, the reality is that many believers slander those whom they’re supposed to love. There’s a difference between speaking what’s correct, and speaking what’s correct correctly.
Correction Builds With Words:
Words have power. So let your speech be full of grace. Pray that the Holy Spirit would give you the right words to say when they need to be said. And above all else, in correction, keep an attitude of love and welcome toward all who need to hear the life-changing message of Jesus Christ!
SPEAK THE TRUTH, BUT DO IT IN LOVE, AND ALLOW GOD TO USE YOU TO WARMLY WELCOME THE LOST INTO THE KINGDOM! – culled from TNL
The moment we get selfish in correcting/ judging others we get vindictive. We lose the Plot. We lose focus. And we have hidden agendas. We breed bitterness. We are not judging by The Word. Then we plot to Destroy!
Correction – Let’s hear Jesus:
John 8:3 And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst,
4 They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.
5 Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?
6 This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not.
7 So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
8 And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.
9 And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.
10 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
Correction Builds On Two Feet:
This was Love (Agape) on two feet.
Why would you stone her? To save her? To stop the sin? Also to prove we are better and we hate sin?
The Master did not hug her and say, Ii understand the pressure of sin, relax, it’s no big deal. I have had such issues too”.
That would not be love.
He called it sin. He let her know she sinned. The difference was He didn’t convict her, pronounce her guilty and sentence her to destruction.
He asked her to repent. Go and sin no more.
Love seeks to help the “sinner”. Sin no more.
Her accusers had stones. When Jesus, the Judge of all came in, they found out the stones were meant for themselves.
Our words can be stones. We say hurtful things. We break people down. And we destroy their self-worth.
RATHER THAN GO AND SIN NO MORE, WE STONE MEN, GO AND LIVE NO MORE!
Our words should be raw materials to help build men who have fallen into sin and errors.
Words of correction in Love:
Galatians 6:1 Brethren, if any person is overtaken in misconduct or sin of any sort, you who are spiritual [who are responsive to and controlled by the Spirit] should set him right and restore and reinstate him, without any sense of superiority and with all gentleness, keeping an attentive eye on yourself, lest you should be tempted also.
We have seen little restoration in the churches these days. The reason? It takes spiritual men to judge others correctly. We have few spiritual men. Those who claim to “know” are not spiritual but self-seeking about it!
Spiritual men are not just men of “knowledge”. They are men of The Spirit. Men of wisdom. They show the fruit of the spirit. They do it with gentleness.
Our words must be well measured and gauged when addressing the faults of other people.
Ephesians 4:29 Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it.
We must not use our words to pull down fellow-believers. Fellow ministers. We must not destroy ministries and churches with our words.
Ephesians 4:15 Rather, let our lives lovingly express truth [in all things, speaking truly, dealing truly, living truly]. Enfolded in love, let us grow up in every way and in all things into Him Who is the Head, [even] Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One)
Correction – Love is people-focused. It focuses on the fellow
16 For because of Him the whole body (the church, in all its various parts), closely joined and firmly knit together by the joints and ligaments with which it is supplied, when each part [with power adapted to its need] is working properly [in all its functions], grows to full maturity, building itself up in love.
I see a trend in some of our churches. When a brother falls into a sin, we quickly exonerate the church. To give the church a good PR. We dissociate. We are more concerned about public perception of the church.
In order to keep our ratings, ensure the steady income and keep members coming, we quickly disclaim the brother or sister.
We have sent many back to the world with our words. We have destroyed them.
Then we must repent. We are no more better than ANY sinning believer. And we are not.
1 Peter4:8 Above all things have intense and unfailing love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins [forgives and disregards the offenses of others].
Love covers a MULTITUDE of sins. Selfish judgment tells a MULTITUDE OF PEOPLE!
We must never be loose and light about sin. Nor should we ever treat it with levity.
However we MUST treat our brethren right. We must handle it in love.
2 Thessalonians 3:14 But if anyone [in the church] refuses to obey what we say in this letter, take note of that person and do not associate with him, so that he may be ashamed.
15 Do not regard him as an enemy, but simply admonish and warn him as [being still] a brother.
In Correction We must have his/her interest at heart.
we must never make him feel comfortable; neither should we treat him as an enemy.
We must have his/her interest at heart.
We must use words of love to correct and not hurtful and judgmental words .
Blessed? I judge and correct in Love, I build and will not destroy. We win!
About The Author:
Pastor Chris Segun Onayinka is a Nigerian Pastor and a profound teacher of the word of God who teaches explicitly, the gospel of Jesus Christ and the New Creation realities. A Nigerian lawyer by profession, He is the founder and senior Pastor of The Saints Community Church.